Just wanted to encourage you to hang in there… it will all happen. Whatever it takes, it WILL be worth it. My daughter is 5 weeks out today from a RNY. I can’t believe how well she’s doing! I think your plan to wait 6 or 7 weeks in between yours and Brian’s surgery is a good one. You’ll need that time to help Brian get on a solid road before jumping in yourself anyway. Anyone that suggests that surgery is the easy way out needs to be around someone working through those first few weeks….they’d change their mind. In our case there has been an added bonus for family members too. We’ve all lost some weight just from being supportive and sharing. We eat a lot of fish now and some chix. Since she eats so little she usually just takes some of whatever we have that she can eat. Most of our meals are planned around that with the excepton of the salads which she isn’t eating yet…soon though! Enjoying following your journey…even through the tough times. Take care…

nessa, i do protein shake days when my food is out of control and i can’t get a handle on it. (hmm, maybe something i should try again now LOL). anyway, some people criticize that it’s not real food but i’ll tell you why it usually works for me: something in me gets triggered in me cravings-wise by the act of chewing, especially at night. when i stick to a protein shake, especially at dinner, that urge to eat the house down at night isn’t there.
it’s definitely worth trying. depending on the # calories in your shakes make sure to drink more than 3 today.

for example
A is one month out.. she got a plate of pulled chicken (like bbq just meat) she ate maybe 1/3 of it and took the rest home
T is 4 years out she had grilled chicken on salad
S is 18 months out she had half a wrap and ate it all
M is 3 months out she had a a salad with chicken and took most o it home